About Lynette Garden

Six months after my late husband, Erik, lost his mostly lifelong battle with suicide, someone came to me and asked if I ever wondered if God loves me. The question was a little shocking to me, but when I heard the question, I experienced something quite magical. I think it was the first time I had the experience of a question being asked, and in that moment, being very clear about the answer to the question.

I strongly held the belief that God can, and does have the ability to stop bad things from happening. I know that Erik shared with me the many times he came so close to committing suicide in his life but was stopped. I didn’t know why this time was different, why he followed through this time but not all the times before. I have experienced many difficult challenges in my life, so I also believe that no matter the challenge, God can turn anything into a beautiful blessing in my life if I am willing and open to the experience.

I can remember being very angry with God twice in my life. As I look back, it is interesting to me that in those two moments, it was about not receiving an answer to something I had been asking about. Compared to the other challenges I have navigated in my life, these two instances were not big crises for me. Almost immediately after I vented about my anger with God, my mind was impressed with the answers that He had been sending me for quite some time, but for some reason I had been overlooking them. Immediately after these realizations, I was very remorseful and repentant.

As much as I miss Erik being here with me and my late brother, Dan, who also lost his battle to suicide, these losses were huge catalysts that changed the trajectory of my life, and have helped my heart and mind be open to true happiness.

My children have been my driving force to stay and live a happy, fulfilled life. The morning after Erik’s passing, when I walked out of my bedroom to gather the kids to feed them breakfast, none of them wanted to get out of bed or eat. In that moment a thought came into my mind that said, “If you want your kids to know they can go on living and be happy, you are going to have to show them that you can do it first.” I knew it was true and have made that my mission ever since.

As I have put my energy into healing and processing through who I am and my life experiences, what has helped me the most is continuing my relationships with my loved ones that have passed from this life. They walk with and help me continue to learn, and have taught me that the best way to live my life is to be present and strive to choose Love in every moment.

I found my way to Alan Cohen’s Holistic Life Coaching Course and was accepted into the program. I was very clear that the work I want to do in my life is truly help people. I know the thing that has helped me the most has been to get to know who I am and truly Love myself. That is what Holistic Life Coaching is about; it is about supporting and helping others find the answers they hold inside of them, that leads them to live their most fulfilled lives.

I believe we are all our own unique and beautiful piece of creation. We are all connected to Source because we are all this unique and beautiful piece of Source; therefore we are all “God” or whatever one chooses to call their Creator. My belief is that when we get in touch with our true nature, which is Source, that is where our answers lie. We each only have our answers inside of us that can, and will guide us to our happiest life as our happiest self.

So, the beautiful blessing that has come to me after losing these amazing men to suicide, is to be able to continue my relationships with them. They help me become more aware of who I am and understand that this life is only a chapter in my eternal journey. I miss them tremendously at times—being able to interact with them in the human sense. Now, I am excited about the beautiful experiences I get to have every day I wake up, while also holding onto the joy that comes with knowing I will get to be with them again when the chapter of this life is done for me.